When Your Marriage Is in Crisis: There's Still Hope

Most couples hit conflict and hard seasons at some point — it's normal, even when it makes you feel completely alone. The apostle Paul told the church in Corinth that those who marry will face trouble (1 Corinthians 7:28). But marriage is also one of God's great blessings, and a hard season doesn't have to be the end of your story.

Work Toward Reconciliation

There are no perfect marriages, because there are no perfect people. For your marriage to work, you have to be willing to forgive your spouse for the things that anger or hurt you. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you (Ephesians 4:32).

Resolve the Argument — Don't Try to Win It

A strong, happy marriage starts with a shift in mindset: your spouse is not your opponent. When conflict comes, see your spouse as your teammate and your marriage as the prize you're both fighting for.

Seek to Understand Your Spouse

In the middle of conflict, slow down and really listen. Working to understand what your spouse is feeling builds deeper intimacy and growth. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (James 1:19).

Counseling Is a First Step, Not a Last Resort

On average, couples endure about six years of unhappiness before they seek help from a marriage counselor. But counseling works best when you reach for it early, as problems start to surface. Your marriage matters — don't wait until you're at the breaking point. If you're in a hard place right now, our care team can help you find a counselor and take that first step.