Ephesians 4:26, “In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you’re still angry.”
Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Like the “Fonz” from Happy Days, we’ve all seen the ubiquitous TV character who, in their pride, struggles to admit their mistakes. The most sure-tongued, witty characters suddenly stutter and stammer as they try to form the following three words: “I was wrrrr… I was wrr… I was wr-wrong. There I said it!” We laugh, but in reality, we often do the same thing!
No one likes to admit they’re wrong. But, as difficult as it is, accepting responsibility is the springboard for genuinely seeking forgiveness and reconciling our relationships — especially when it comes to marriage.
Marriage can be frustrating. And, let’s face it, we’re all human and prone to error. So, when we “lose it,” we have one of two choices: we can ignore our wrong behavior or we can follow Jesus’ example and extend forgiveness and show compassion.
The proper apology may be difficult to start, but it’s amazing in the end. We simply need to say: “I’m sorry. I was wrong. Please forgive me.” Then, we can talk about what we can do better going forward. And modeling God’s forgiveness and compassion is one of the most incredible things we can do not only to make our marriages stronger but to teach our children, who in turn will do the same when they someday have kids of their own!
Remember this apology pattern and give thanks that we have a God who has modeled forgiveness and compassion for us.
Dear Lord, Because of the forgiveness I’ve received, help me model Your compassion and grace towards others, especially my spouse. In Jesus’ name, Amen.